I call therapy practical magic.
Practical because you should see results soon after you start. It has to improve your life. Magical because good therapy works on far deeper levels. You might call these spiritual or subconscious or inspirational or existential. It is as if an underground river starts to move deep inside the soul or spirit. Your unlived life starts to stir and flow. I see this all the time. It is the most remarkable, wonderful thing about this work I do.
Positive Psychology focuses on how we can grow happiness, meaning and connection in our lives.. Unfortunately traditional psychology sometimes focuses on your problems and your defeats. Its goal is to take you from -5 to 0. Positive Psychology says neutral isn’t enough. It aims to go from neutral to +10.
I’ve taught the science of positive psychology to the med students at UCLA.
What’s it like to work with you?
I won’t refuse to talk. I won’t stare at you sphinx-like and say, “How does that make you feel?” I ask questions and tell my clients what I think. I work in a way that’s warm and non judgmental. We will talk and muse about life, exchange ideas and probably laugh. I bring a lot of experience with life to the process. Work and love, family and change, spirituality and discovery.
Do I have to spend a long time dredging up all the bad things that ever happened to me?
That’s not how I work. I don’t believe you have to descend ever deeper into inky caves of the past. People change in the present. No researcher has ever proven that digging into the past fosters change. The past is important if it helps us to understand ourselves in a compassionate way.
I like to answer questions. You can call me at the office. I offer a complimentary consultation.
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