Fortunately in a relationship it is not three strikes and you’re out. Having a partner presents endless opportunities to revise and reinvent.
Unlike baseball, love doesn’t have a winner and loser – though some people play it that way. Winning only happens when you recognize there is no adversary. If you play that way, you both lose. The true purpose of the game is to learn about love, trust and the human spirit.
Anybody who is in a relationship could benefit. Unmarried couples. Couples who are getting ready to get married (and want to start off right). Couples who have been married (but want more out of their relationship). And couples who know things are way too hard.
Everyone benefits and learns. Remarkable but true.
Starting couples counseling may seem like a daunting task, however reigniting the spark between you and your loved one is the best investment you can make in your happiness. Research continually proves that you’re romantic relationship impacts your overall happiness more than any other factor in most people’s entire lives.
While no couple is perfect, nobody deserves to be unhappy with the one they love. Couples counseling is in most cases the best way to rebuild the relationship and to fall back in love.
I teach couples practical, action oriented tools for communication and compassion. Couples therapy can be fun and transformational. My goal is to help you see positive change right away.
The breakthrough came in 1990. Until then most couples therapy was based on time-honored but flawed assumptions. A lot of it still is.
In the early 90’s Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington began studying the hidden factors that are present in all relationships that flourish. He turned couples therapy into a science. Others built on his work.
It is this approach that is at the heart of my work with couples. It is filled with startling insights – discoveries that you can put to work.
My work is grounded not only in the Gottman Method I also utilize Positive Psychology, as well as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Buddhism, Gestalt Therapy and the wisdom traditions.
I strive to make couples work uplifting, collaborative and worthwhile. One of the things that’s so rewarding about it is that clients often find the lessons they learn can be put to use in any relationship — with their kids, co-workers and friends.